THE DUSTER — THIS IS NOT A HOUSEKEEPING POST

Happy Monday, everyone! For the majority, Monday is a day to dread. And for the most part, I’m with you. But both of my kids are back at school today, and although I love them more than life itself, I do need a bit of me time after being 24/7 mom for over two weeks.

Today’s post is a simple fashion break. I’m showcasing the Duster—a long cardigan that’s easy and effortless and can be dressed up or worn casually. Throw it over leather leggings as I’m wearing here. Pair it with jeans and a t-shirt or tank top. Wear it over a dress or skirt and blouse. The possibilities are endless! You know I’m big on versatility.

The duster I’m wearing here is sold out online in smaller sizes, but I’ve provided several alternatives that are also very affordable. (And you can always check your local Target for the version I’m wearing.) If you don’t yet own a pair of leather leggings, what are you waiting for? You all have seen these before, and you’re going to continue to see them on me for years to come because they will never go out of style. I’ve even provided a faux pair that look pretty darn real. And the black pumps—yes, they’re an investment, but the pair on my feet here are over 10 years old. Yep, no exaggeration. To shop the entire look, simply scroll through the images below using the arrows and click on any image.

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PUFFER JACKETS

A few weeks ago, an ad for a puffer gown came up in my Facebook feed. I won’t mention the brand because I actually like many of their jackets and coats. But this dress? Hmmmmmm. Does anyone remember the Michelin Man commercials? The character that looked like a giant marshmallow? Well, that’s what this dress resembled. To the tune of $2,000! Yes, you read that correctly. I got a kick out of it as I was trying to understand why it popped into my feed. And a few weeks later, a friend of mine sent me an article on puffer gowns being the latest fashion trend. It even talked about how to accessorize them. None of it convinced me to jump on the bandwagon…a wagon that probably had one person riding.

But the puffer jacket, now that’s a different story. There are so many great options this season from cropped to bright colors to styles with faux fur collars. I was fortunate enough to spot this one at Target. I have an extremely long torso, so I don’t usually love cropped styles. So when I was considering it, I didn’t want to spend a ton of money. If you’re looking to be a part of this trend, this may be the jacket for you because it’s a neutral color, affordably priced, and is not overly cropped like some I’ve seen. If you’re 20 years younger than I am, you can probably pull off that uber cropped look. But I’m a bit past it at the age of 44.

The greatest thing about puffer jackets is that they’re warm (even this one from Target) and they can be scrunched into a bag or suitcase without wrinkling. This jacket was perfect for a trip to Rockefeller Center to see this year’s tree and grab a tasty chai tea latte from the Ralph’s Coffee Pop-Up. I mean, how cute is this little holiday scene of a truck? And just below where I’m standing is the Rockefeller Center Ice Rink, buzzing with skaters taking a bite of the New York City Christmas extravaganza. If you’re planning to be in NYC this winter, you must stop by. The beverages are pricey but very worth it given the setting and their warmth and deliciousness.

To shop this puffer jacket and other favorites of the season, simply click on the images below.

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Featured Jacket

Reversible Nike

Faux Fur Hood

Maternity

Faux Fur Hood

Red Short

Red w/Faux Fur Hood

Army Green Packable

Pink Metallic

Pine Puffer

Green Faux Fur Hood

Blue Faux Fur

SAM Black w/Fur Hood

Black Puffer

Zippered Black

Black Red Lined

WINTER WHITE OVERSIZED SWEATERS

Winter white has to be my favorite color of sweater during colder months. That creamy softness, a little darker and warmer than snow, not crisp like the white of summertime. It’s flattering to all skin tones and hair colors, and it just screams cozy. When it’s oversized, the coziness just went up a few degrees. It’s versatile. You guys know that’s my criteria for anything. It goes with denim, black, black leather, camel, gray, winter white on the bottom…everything!

This particular sweater is from Mango, whose sweaters I am loving this season. So I’ve provided a few additional options from Mango if you don’t love this particular sweater. Through today only, you can use code VIP18 at checkout to receive 30% off. You won’t find this code listed on their website. The other sweaters are Madewell and from their website or Nordstrom, and they’re also on sale!

I’ve paired this oversized sweater with my favorite coated jeans that you’ve seen before, and I’ve added leopard print boots for a city chic look. To me, this entire look is casual taken up a notch, perfect for brunch or dinner out. But again, this and the other options can go with anything. Simply click on the images in the SHOP SWEATERS and SHOP THE LOOK sections to see all details and shop. And don’t forget your 30% off code for Mango.

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Gold Hoops

Gold Bangle

WARM UP WITH A SCARF

I promise there’s a reason for the dogs in the photo, but I’ll get to that in a bit. We’re getting down to the wire. 11 days until Christmas, which means only 10 shopping days remain. At this point, you need easy, no risk gifts. And a scarf falls into that category. This scarf I’m wearing, which you saw earlier this week with a sweater dress, is amazing. It’s versatile, soft, luxurious and affordable.

But if the lady in your life doesn’t want something quite as chunky, I’ve provided a few more options. The Missoni blush scarf is quite a splurge, but I’ve had a Missoni scarf and a Missoni dress for years, and both are still so beautiful, never going out of style. The other options are all fairly accessible, and as for style, I think most women would be thrilled to receive any one of them. If you wish to shop the scarves, simply click on the photos below to SHOP THE LOOK.

And last but not least, the dogs. These beautiful collies do not belong to me, but we couldn’t resist them as they were walking by. The owners were so nice and were happy to stop and play a little. If you have an animal lover in your life and you still can’t think of an appropriate gift, consider a donation, in honor of that special person, to an organization that helps furry friends. The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, more commonly known as the ASPCA, is always a great organization to send a donation. It was the first humane society established in North America and remains one of the largest in the world. Who wouldn’t be happy about donating to an organization that protects beautiful, loving, innocent animals?

Besides the ASPCA, there are likely no-kill animal shelters in your area that could use your help. My kids and I visited the Southampton Animal Shelter several times this summer. Without support from the community, they can’t do what they do. The Southampton Animal Shelter is an absolutely wonderful facility and organization. My kids could have stayed all day long in one of the kitten rooms, playing with these adorable little creatures. They hold all animals until they are adopted, often nursing many of them back to health. This organization could use your help, but if you prefer to donate locally, please research no-kill shelters in your area.

And finally, Best Friends is an organization that owns sanctuaries for animals, and in addition, brings together organizations that work to end the killing homeless animals. Consider donating to one of these organizations, or a similar one in your area, this holiday season. You can never go wrong by donating to a worthwhile cause.

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Featured Scarf

Missoni Blush

Red Blanket

Pink Faux Fur

Rib Knit

Ivory w/Rainbow Speckles

Animal Print

Donegal Cable

Seafoam Stripe

Light Blue Boucle

Black Cream Stripe

Gray Cream Stripe

PONCHOS PACK A PUNCH

When it comes to cozy, nothing says it better than a poncho. After all, it’s basically a blanket with arm holes cut out, right? A poncho is perfect for fall and winter, as it can be layered over button down shirts and both lightweight and heavy sweaters. They’re terrific for a fall weekend apple picking, hiking, and/or in the pumpkin patch. And when there is snow on the mountain, nothing could be more stylish and cozy for après-ski (hint-hint for any skiers on your gift list) or more festive for Christmas tree shopping. In addition, many of them are affordably priced—another great reason they make wonderful gifts.

This poncho I’m wearing is from Target. How do I love Tar-zhay? Let me count the ways! And if it wasn’t for this poncho, I would have suffered from hypothermia. It was freezing the day these photos were taken, and this baby saved me. It’s super warm, super soft, and super affordable. It’s presently on sale—buy one, get one half off—so get the sweater and poncho together! And perhaps one of the the best reasons to gift a poncho—no need to worry about guessing her correct size (which means you can’t offend her).

The thin v-neck sweater I’m wearing is also from Target. And my jewels, shoes and belt are so versatile—you’ve seen them all more than once. Simply click on the photos below in the SHOP THE LOOK section to shop this poncho and a few other favorites from this season (many on sale). There are even two from Wal-mart! Yes, I said Wal-mart! The rest of my outfit can be shopped here—Marc Fisher booties (and similar here), grey sweater layered underneath, belt, crescent necklace, delicate choker, and faux (but very authentic looking) diamond stud earrings.

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THE POM POM SWEATER

I might have been a cheerleader for a year in high school. I have so many fond memories of that time with my teammates, smiling through freezing cold football games, and getting our hair up into our banana clips perfectly. Did any of you wear banana clips? Yes, that was a looooonnnngggg time ago. I also have a scar that remains on my calf from falling off the top of a pyramid and having Pam Barron break my fall...with her fingernail. I still love you for saving my life, Pam!

Ironically enough, we didn’t use pom poms a lot, but that term just takes me back to those days. This year, I’ve seen so many pom pom sweaters, and I’m in love with the one I’m wearing because it’s so versatile. I wear it with denim (distressed, gray, black), coated jeans, and leather leggings. While this particular sweater from Madewell is sold out in most smaller sizes, I’ve provided options for a few others if you love this look as much as I do. Simply click on the images below to SHOP THE LOOK. In addition, if you like the cut of this sweater (the sleeves are fabulous), Madewell sells it in other colors without the pom poms here.

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SWEATER DRESSING

Christmas tree shopping in NYC. Nothing like it in the world. I mean that. Sharpen your negotiation skills before you go. It’s like buying a car…don’t ever pay the first price they quote. And maybe not even the second.

I didn’t really go tree shopping in a sweater dress and stilettos, but hey, perhaps if I had shown up like I meant business, I would have gotten a better price. These photos were actually taken at the tree stand in front of the Museum of Natural History on Columbus Avenue, and the staff couldn’t have been friendlier. Had it not been a few blocks too far from our apartment, we would have purchased from them this year.

The truth is that the holidays are full of opportunities to dress up. While there are occasions for lots of shimmer and shine, not every gathering requires us to be that gussied up. A sweater dress is a perfect blend of dressy, cozy, and somewhat casual/not trying too hard. I’ve recently rediscovered Banana Republic. I loved shopping there when I was in college, and then I went through a phase where it was hit or miss. But lately I’ve found that I can find some pretty great wardrobe staples, and with their frequent and fabulous sales, you almost can’t go wrong. This pale gray sweater dress is from Banana, and I purchased it during their Black Friday sale. It comes in multiple colors, but while I was trying it on at home, I threw it down next to this scarf, and it was almost as if the fashion gods were screaming at me. I love the ruffle cuff that adds just enough to keep the dress from being boring. The fabric falls so nicely and isn’t clingy—clingy does not work for me in a knit dress! And best of all, it’s presently on sale!

The scarf was also featured in my Holiday Gift Guide for Her and is still available. Later this week, I’m going to do a round up on my favorite scarves because they are a terrific way to accessorize AND many can be found at a reasonable price point, making them the perfect gift this holiday season.

I’ve curated a few other sweater dresses that are perfect for this holiday season and beyond. Personally, I can’t wear the minis, but if you can pull it off, I love the look with a pair of boots—over-the-knee, just under the knee, or even booties. For the sleeveless options, throw on a great blazer, a poncho, or even a duster. And sweater dresses are always great to try with a belt if the style permits. Simply click on the images below to SHOP THE LOOK for all of the dresses and the rest of my ensemble featured here.

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IT’S GONNA BE A GRAYT DAY

Charcoal isn’t just for summer barbecues anymore. While black is always a universally flattering color, sometimes we want a somewhat softer look. Charcoal gray (or even a lighter gray) is often a great solution. I swapped sweaters after my Coated Jeans post to the simple oversized gray sweater featured here. And I will happily wear it with distressed blue denim, white jeans (yes, I do white jeans in winter!), camel trousers, and the list goes on. Gray is as versatile as black.

In addition to this sweater, I’m showing you a few “grayt” pieces that I believe you’ll wear all winter long. Most of these items are accessibly priced, making them great gifts if you’re still on the hunt. Simply CLICK ON THE IMAGES below to SHOP THE LOOK.

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Featured Sweater

Basic V Neck Sweater

Pom Pom Hat

Blanket Scarf

Tweed Blazer

Faux Fur Jacket

Skinny Jeans

Long Cardigan

Lace Trim Cami

Hoodie

Sequin Sweater

Cable Turtleneck

COATED JEANS

A coat. It’s good for more than just warmth. It’s a fabulous way to make ordinary jeans a little snazzier (is that a word?!) You guys know I love my leather leggings, but sometimes I want a similar look in a more casual style. Enter the coated jean. I got tired of wearing blue jeans every day, so I’ve started branching out into colors and coated jeans again to make things a little more interesting. You can wear them with boots or dress them up with pumps. They’re extremely versatile, and you know that’s my thing.

I found this pair at…wait for it…Zara! Shocking, right? They sold out in many sizes during the Black Friday sale, but if you click through to the site and don’t see your size available, you can add your name to the waitlist. More are coming! They’ll email you when they’re in. Their system actually works, and I get highly coveted items all the time just after all I think all hope has been lost. They do run a little snug. I went up a size and recommend you do the same. If you simply can’t wait if your size is out of stock, I’ve included a few additional options from other brands. Nordstrom has a ton, and with their great return policy, just order a few and try.

This cropped sweater is wonderful. It’s tweed and has subtle sequins throughout. I have a very long torso, so it won’t be as cropped on most people. I went out on a limb and tried cognac boots and a belt to change things up, and I like the look versus all black. I also think it makes the entire ensemble more casual. Simply click on the product images or names to SHOP THE LOOK in the section below.

This jacket can be shopped here.

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Featured Coated Jeans

Raw Hem Coated Jean

Mid-Rise Super Skinny Coated

Bond Skinny Coated

Featured Tweed Sequin Sweater

Featured Suede Bootie in Chestnut Brown and Here

in Taupe Suede

Dolce Vita Suede

Splendid Cognac Bootie

Featured Cognac Leather Belt

Gold Bangle

This winter, apply two coats. And I’m not talking paint! xoxo!

HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE FOR HIM

We all have special men in our lives. Whether it’s our husband, father, son, boyfriend, best friend, uncle, cousin…I know I’m missing someone…we love to love them. They bring so much joy to our worlds. And gift or no gift, they will love us simply for who we are. But knowing that, we always want to buy them something that they’ll enjoy because we live for their smiles. That said, I think it is so difficult to buy for men. One reason is that I feel like so many great gifts for men are expensive. There are a few of those on here. But I’ve also managed to find gifts that won’t break the bank, and I think they’ll be just as thrilled with those if you aren’t able to splurge for the pricey gadgets. CLICK ON THE PHOTOS OR NAMES BELOW TO SHOP.

Bose SoundTouch 300 Sound Bar

Every man loves a good sound system, so I always try to include one in my gift guides. Bose almost never fails. And this one is also really sleek and cool looking. Sort of like a sports car, and if you can’t afford one of those, this is the next best thing, right?

GoPro Hero7 Black

For the active man who wants to capture all the thrills and excitement of his life. And that of his family. So ladies, this could be a good thing for you, too.

Pat LaFrieda Urbani Truffle Burgers

This was also in my Holiday Gift Guide for Her. But let’s face it, men really enjoy grilling. Somehow it’s not like cooking to those who don’t normally cook. But these burgers take it up a notch. If you’ve never had Pat LaFrieda burgers, they’re great on their own. But O. M. G. with truffles added!

The NEAT Whiskey Glass

The unique shape of this glass allows your whiskey or bourbon drinker to forego the strong alcohol fumes of their favorite spirit and enjoy only the natural aroma they love so much.

Pedro Ximenez Sherry

This was also in my Holiday Gift Guide for Her. I love dessert wine and cordials. But every time I order it at a restaurant, they always bring it to my husband. So does that mean dessert wines are usually more for men? Regardless, this really isn’t a wine, but if a guy in your life loves Port wine, he will love this. Surprise him. Show him something new!

Floatation Therapy

Floatation Therapy is a powerful tool for relaxation, pain relief, sleep deprivation and relief after intense workouts. It also calms the mind. My friends in Northern Virginia own Ninotch, a spa with open float rooms. Give a hardworking man in your life some time to float, relax, and come back to you refreshed. And for those of you outside of the Washington, DC area, be sure to look for a spa with floatation therapy in open rooms near you. You can learn more about the therapy by clicking through here.

Kiehl’s Mighty Moisture Set

Dry skin plagues us all during Winter months, especially men. But a lot of men don’t take the time to really care for their skin. Kiehl’s Creme de Corps has always been the most hydrating formula in my mind. So I love that it’s teamed up with others in the Kiehl’s line for the coming Winter.

Portable Backgammon Set

So many men love to play backgammon. And my older son is no exception. He loves to play with his father. What a perfect gift for both and a way to keep them off of the iPad when traveling.

Light Up and Reflective Cap

No, this is not a Minions cap. It’s a smart and safe cap for those men who like to run and do other things at night. With reflectors and a removable light, it ensures he’ll be noticed.

Buck Mason Pima Tee

Every man is always in search of a great t-shirt or two. This comes in 12 colors and has received reviews as the best all around t-shirt. I think it’s worth a try.

Guardman 11-in-1 Pocket Bottle Opener and More

This 11-in-1 tool that serves as a bottle opener, can opener, screwdriver, ruler, and so much more will be the perfect gift if your guy is a Mr. Fix It!

Nomad Slim Charging Wallet

Nomad Bi-Fold Charging Wallet

These wallets will keep your busy guy all charged up without adding tons of extra bulk and weight. The iPhone charger is built right in. And they’re actually very stylish to boot.

Navy Shearling Slippers for Men

Because who needs another pair of tan or brown slippers? And I like the soles on these because it wouldn’t be the end of the world if he walked outside in them.

Quarter Zip Sweater with Leather Trim

This sweater can be worn casually with jeans with a t-shirt or collared shirt underneath, and also worn with trousers. Or layered under a blazer. Versatility is always a good thing.

Colorblock Scarf

Every man needs a good scarf to finish off a beautiful coat. And I love this one because it can complement black, gray, and camel, popular choices for men, so a safer bet for a gift.

Man’s Search for Meaning

Amazon’s Review: Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl's memoir has riveted generations of readers with its descriptions of life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Between 1942 and 1945 Frankl labored in four different camps, including Auschwitz, while his parents, brother, and pregnant wife perished. Based on his own experience and the experiences of others he treated later in his practice, Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose. He theorizes that our primary drive in life is the discovery and pursuit of what we personally find meaningful.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING to all! And remember that time with your family and friends is more important than the hundreds of Black Friday sales that have already begun the race to your wallet. Take Thursday off. Shop now or Friday. xoxo!